Please don’t take me wrong. I do respect my in-laws and I also feel elated when I see families where two, three generations live together happily. I also agree that this is one of the best arrangements for physical, emotional and financial support. But without paying heed to the society, I have taken a decision and I am proud of it. I do not live with my in-laws but still, I adore them just like my parents.
My parents are in fact older than my husband’s parents. I wanted to live my life on my terms and conditions. We would have saved money by living in the same house. And I wished that my-in-laws should also not waste time on trivial issues and live in peace and that is what made me to take this decision.
I wanted to nurture my relationship with my husband
Being a newlywed is a blissful time for couples and they get their private time together. But with my in-laws constantly around, I might not able to spend quality time with my husband. The home would have been rife with conflicts if I was not being able to read their mind, not responding the way they expected, not smiling enough, not cooking enough or not taking their permission for every little thing. One has to be happy to make others happy. So, all these were not acceptable to me.
I wanted to be independent
A life without purpose is such a waste. My parents have always taught me to be financially independent without relying on anybody’s bank account. I always wanted to do a job and be independent. But living with in-laws might not be a good idea in this case. In short, their house, their rules. I would have to tiptoe around them to make sure that I might not be offending their feelings and expectations.
I did not want to start a family right after my marriage but my in-laws would not resist giving advice like Have children! This is the right age! You both will repent later! They are also right as they are speaking out of their experiences. But this is a new and one of the most beautiful phases of my life and let me enjoy it to the fullest. And yes, I do not support that first my in-laws raise their children and then raise mine making sacrifice throughout their lives. Even I will ask my son to spend life with his better half to know each other better.
I want to share one more thing here, we spend one weekend with my in-laws and the next with my parents and we have a great time together.
Many years have gone by but still, people cannot resist butting in and asking why you left your in-laws? Are you living alone? My answer to them is -I do not live alone. I live with my husband and children happily ever after!
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